It wouldn't be so bad if it was just left at that, but for some fucked up reason people seem to feel like they need an explanation. "What do we mean we are not having kids?" "Of course you're going to have kids! Don't be silly!" or my personal favorite "He'll change his mind!". I've heard all of this and more. So I'm setting the record straight, right here, right now. Hopefully this will stop some people from asking. Or maybe this will stop you, dear reader, from saying the same stuff to your childless friends. So here are my reasons for not wanting kiddies.
- Contrary to popular belief, not all women want to have babies. Shocking, I know. But I personally do not want to have children. This is not my husbands decision. I knew full well before we got married where he stood on having children. I accept and agree with his views. This is the way these things are supposed to work, people. You have these talks prior to marriage, so there is no surprises down the road, If I did not agree with his views on this matter, I would not be married to him. Pure and simple folks. So I doubt "He'll change his mind" is a valid argument on why I should have children.
- I'm not going to lie, I'm not done having fun yet. I'm still young (ish) and I like to do what I feel like... when I feel like it. Does that make me selfish? No, because I don't have kids. See how that works? I have a job. I go to it every day. I get paid. I spend my pay on necessities, and whatever is left over I spend how I want. If we feel like going to a movie, or to visit friends we don't have to worry about things like a sitter. The cats will be just fine, I assure you. It's called being a childless adult, and it rules.
- I do not have the temperament to be a mother. I know some of you will disagree. Sorry, but I don't. I do not have the patience to deal with a child all the time. Most people don't. At least I admit it to myself.
- Frankly the way the world is today, I would not even consider having a baby. No place is safe any more. Parents have to be scared to send the kids to school. Not the kind of world I want to raise a child in